Strange message on OKC

I have an account on OK Cupid, and for the most part, it’s been working for me.  However, I got this weird message from a user named “carefuluu” warning me of a guy named “jon” on some message boards posting about someone who sounded a lot like me.  He never went into specifics about what “jon” was posting about.  I only remember one date with someone who might fit the description, which lasted for about two hours and took place entirely at a donut shop.  Afterwards, I dropped him off at the train station so he could get to work on time.  He did give me a phone number of someone else… who I was guessing was a relative.  But the first time I called (from my evoice number — not my real number) I was confused as to whether I had the right number.  Here’s a screen shot of the message:

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I immediately deciced to update my profile to make note of this.  I have no idea where to look for a post on this online, and I just don’t have time.  I think the best thing for me to do would be to do an investigation on the guy in question.

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My Youtube Channel Has Been Taken Down

The newest updates: My youtube channel has been taken down, interestingly after I made a negative post on Lynette’s youtube channel. This woman is truly a pest and a threat to free society everywhere. If you watch my videos, which will be cross posted on drop box and vimeo soon (most of them have already been cross posted on vimeo, and in fact, I have relinked most of the dead links on my blog already.) I’m not sure how she managed to infringe upon my rights to free speech when it’s very clear that she was harassing me, which makes the video more of a documentary than any sort of defamation. She on the other hand, has been guilty of defamation, slander, harassment, and discrimination based on sexual orientation and history of myself.

** My youtube films are now up and running again as of September 17th.  I removed any photographs that might even vaguely be considered pornographic, and voila!  My stuff has been reinstated.  Thank goodness, because I realized I was getting quite a few hits to this blog from youtube.

Noise Harassment continued

It took me awhile to edit this film because I’ve been busy at work, and then had a friend visit for a week, and then my dad for a week right after that. I don’t remember when this happened but I think it was about a month or so ago.

The original film was on youtube, however, for some strange reason my youtube channel has been taken down.  I found it easy enough, since I keep all my finished projects on an external hard drive and burn them to disks, so that I have several back ups, to upload this video to vimeo.  I will soon be creating a drive just for my projects, photos, and records so that anyone who reads this blog can get access.  It’s very clear that this information is very threatening to some people.

Co-worker who harassed me is an Eastern Star

I found out through a google search that the woman who harassed me at my first real estate job is an Eastern Star, the women’s division of Free Masons here in NYC.

I used to be a skeptic… I was the first one to poo-poo these “conspiracy theories,” and when a friend of mine started taping over her webcam, I just saw it as a bit of paranoia. Now, there is no doubt in my mind that people can be targeted for almost no reason. These are average people (VERY AVERAGE, IN MY OPINION, THINKING BACK ON MOST OF THE PEOPLE WHO HARASSED ME.) Many of them are not particularly special or spectacular in any way, and having spent some time around Lynnette, I found her to be particularly ineducated and “trashy.” I’m going to say that I have a facebook friend who was a (male) Mason, and having known him, he was smart, highly educated, personable, and I never had a problem with him. I am going to refrain from jumping to the conclusion here that I am being targeted by FreeMasons in particular, because in much the same way that one corrupt cop can smear the entire police department’s reputation, I think that one or two chapters of militantly insane Free Mason’s might have the same effect on an entire organization’s reputation. One of my favorite quotes from George Carlin is “never underestimate the power of stupid people in large groups.” Carlin’s genius was in stating the obvious in a way that was humorous… making a dark subject a bit lighter. I am terrified at the state of the country.

Here is the link to the film I made, including audio with Lynette

If you haven’t been following my blog, Lynette was involved in harassment against me at my first job.  Shortly after she began harassing me, an email was sent out to three offices of my company which contained explicit images of me from my adult film days.  The email was sent out by “tipman” and the subject line was “this is what ***** Realty stands for.”  My manager was a very conservative Palestinian guy, and he felt sort of backed into a corner amidst complaints from a few people at my office and had to let me go.

More on workplace harassment

As noted in a previous post, I was fired from my job due to mutiple emails from someone named “tipman” who emailed three offices at the real estate firm that I worked at with photos of me from my adult films.  I’ve already posted a video I made with tape recordings of the woman who relentlessly harassed me through various means, and i’ve found enough new links to start a new page.  Thankfully, this phenomenon is coming to light as something real and not simply some sort of paranoid halluciantion on the part of the victim.

Recent story in psychology today about workplace “mobbing” or adult bullying on steroids.

New story about a woman who was able to prosecute and convict her female harasser

Informational video about workplace bullying

Hour long television show about workplace bullying


Temporary respite from harassment

Perhaps due to numerous factors, including the fact that since I have been driving it has not been easy to get to me, the harassment seems to have abated almost entirely. Especially in light of the events of today concerning Malaysian airlines, I began thinking about how fragile and transient life can be, and how much I love being alive, and how many blessings I have that make my life worth living. I am so thankful for my health, my intelligence, my incredible kids, the warm summer weather, and the simple pleasures of ripe fruit and sweet tea.

I’ve read in so many blogs about how it’s virtually impossible to protect yourself from this type of harassment, but the reality is, there are a lot of things you can do.

1) Smart phone related
-minimize use
-use signal blocking pouches
-turn off location finders
-set pass words on your phone
-many sites say moving doesn’t help, but the reality is, it DOES as long as you move to a location where you have a lot of privacy
-moving also means avoiding the circumstances in which you are most harassed. In my case it was on the train, so initially after I moved I was able to take the express bus to work. This helped a lot but when I got a car, virtually all of the harassment stopped. I guess it became too difficult to follow me around.
3)Document what you are experiencing as evidence against allegations of paranoia
-there are numerous small sized and “spy” cameras on the market. Use them.
-carry a digital recorder
-keep a log of emails to friends and family
-take photos — this freaks them out to no end. Many of them ran away after I took photos.
-save documentation related to medical care
4)Don’t talk too much to the wrong people
-don’t start telling people about your ordeal until you have a substantial amount of evidence. If they think you are crazy it will affect your credibility in the future.
-tell a few people that you trust, especially if they spend a lot of time with you and can act as a witness to some of the events.
5)confront the harassers
-I wish I had confronted the issue the minute I became aware that something was foul. They need to be confronted in a calm rational manner, and be video taped or tape recorded while you are doing it. They don’t want to be exposed, and often the simple act of turning on a recorder will deter them from their behavior.
6) know your rights
-you have the right to run a video recorder in any publicly owned space
-you have the right to defend yourself against physical assaults
-you do not have to put up with harassment or discrimination in your place of work or at your college, or your children’s school.
7)Keep your cool, but don’t let people push you around or walk all over you either.
-admittedly I lost my cool more than once, however, I think in a couple situations my response was justified.
8)Take extra care of yourself
-get massages, work out/exercise, meditate, listen to music, or do whatever it takes to get you into a relaxed state of mind, in order to counteract the stress.
-have hobbies or interests that you love that can help you take your mind off of things.
-schedule extra time with people who’s company you enjoy.

I am not naive enough to think that all the assaults against me will stop. I believe they will likely try to find some other method, and of course, it’s awfully hard to know if someone is sending emails to people at your work unless someone tells you about it. Of course, nothing can stop people from spreading false gossip unless it is in print or some sort of media, in which case you could sue them for defamation. I think that I have seen the dark underbelly of people who consider themselves to be “spreading the love” and it’s more terrifying than being confronted with a pit full of vipers. At least vipers react rationally to things.

Strange phone calls

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This incident happened almost three weeks ago already, but I”ve been pretty busy with work (did a few deals, I’m happy to say!) and I haven’t had time to edit this and post it.  I got a very strange phone call just after midnight.  I did not answer it because it was obvious it was a spoof call.   The next day when I was more clear headed I tried calling the number back, not really expecting to get anything of course, and of course the call didn’t go through.