One of the most ironic things about this whole ordeal is that anyone who knows my daughter well knows that she prefers being with me, and does not like going to her father’s house, for various reasons, but mostly because his aloof demeanor makes my daughter feel ignored, and he is not the type to initiate conversations or structured play, something that my daughter, who has a very high IQ like I do, needs for stimulation. There is sort of a misconception by most people that children who are introverted or extremely organized have some sort of mental or personality disorder. On the contrary, research has found that children with high IQs are predominantly introverted and prefer reading or independent play compared to other children. Often, according to many child psychologists, they have trouble relating to their peers who are not as smart as they are. I made a special effort with my daughter to engage her and to draw her out, but over the past few months, I have noticed that she has become more and more withdrawn than ever before.
On Mother’s Day this year, my daughter gave me a card, with three horses, one mom (meant to be me) and two colts, representing herself and her brother. What was especially notable was that they eyes of the horses were extrememly small, and that the mother horse was wearing a bridle which almost entirely obscured her vision. Here is the picture:
What struck me immediately is the difference in the facial expressions and color of these horses compared to what she used to draw. Prior to this, she drew bright, colorful horses with huge expressive eyes, sparkles, rainbows, and lots of clouds and decorations. The subdued colors and the tiny, unexpressive eyes are indicative of my daughter’s depressed mental state. Although I have two professional degrees, I remember quite a bit from my college studies in psychology. Following are old drawings from when she lived with me at my home, showing bright colors and joyful expressions on the faces of the horses. The difference in styles of the faces and the emotional character of these drawings is extremely striking.
My daughter has been suffering the most due to this whole ordeal. All of the Cornfelds, including Ann Cornfeld, are aloof, sort of emotionally withdrawn intellectuals who, although they have no problem calculating profit/loss statements, struggle to relate at any sort of emotional level, and fantasy life escapes them entirely. However, when it comes to buying favors and intimidating others with their money and abusing their power, they have no problem with this.