Unfortunately, although the rhetoric in the justice system is that justice is blind, and that all people get fair treatment in the justice system, this is simply not the case, and sometimes it has less to do with discrimination as it does with crony-ism. Arthur Cornfeld, who was a Harvard trained lawyer before he became a real estate investor, and Arthur’s niece, Leslie Cornfeld, who worked at the D.A.’s office and who was an advisor to Mayor Bloomberg, have a lot of connections in the legal community, and who knows what other kind of organizations, and there is absolutely NO WAY (even if there were the best of intentions, which there are not) that I will get entirely fair and unbiased legal proceedings. I have already experienced blackballing by the lawyer for the “children” presumably who is supposed to work for the children’s interests, who refused to return repeated phone calls and emails, and who would only set up an appointment to speak with me at the intercession of my lawyer. In addition, the lawyer for the Cornfelds misrepresented me to the judge as having a criminal record. While it is true that I have been arrested due to some incidents which were related to other’s harassment of me (one of these incidents, which went to court, resulted in all charges being dropped and no charges pressed) this has nothing to do with an actual criminal record, meaning misdemeanor or felony charges. What was more disturbing than the blackballing and misrepresentation, which could almost be expected given the underhanded tactics that the Cornfelds have been taking, was the misrepresentation of me by the healthcare professionals who were taking my case, especially by Nikki Gontmakher of Child and Family Services in Manhattan.
There were various issues of lack of proper comportment by Nikki, including an overly condescending way of addressing me, and inconsistencies in her reports of “dissociation” episodes on my part while I was with the kids, but there were some instances of outright lies that she told in her reports to the court. The first few times that my daughter came into the offices of CFS, she cried when seeing me, and when it came time to leave, she threw her arms around me and said loudly “Mommy, I don’t want to go to Daddy’s house.” Gontmakher noticed and heard, because she looked over and then looked sadly down at the floor, however, she did not put any of this in her report. Also notably missing, routine instances of lateness by Alex as well as herself. But more than this, specifically there was one instance in which my daughter, who is suffering greatly due to our separation, who came in one day and complained to me about an instance in which she felt that she had been yelled at unfairly by her step-mother, and how she felt that she was ignored and not paid attention to at the Cornfeld household. I listened patiently, and simply acknowledged her words by saying, “I’m sorry … it sounds like you’re having a rough time.” This seemed like a sort of neutral way to acknowledge her feelings without saying anything bad about the father, but this enraged Gontmakher. Apparently, any remote intimation that she might be having an unhappy experience at the Cornfelds was taken as a personal attack against Alex. That evening, she sent me an email chiding me for “berating Alex” in front of the kids. Shocked and incredulous, I emailed her back asking her to specifically detail exactly what I said which was “berating,” but she evaded the question, and insisted that I had berated Alex that day. Luckily, I made a recording of most of the session, which I have posted on my dropbox. In addition, I’m posting the emails that she sent me, as well as screen shots of text messages of each and every time the children were late, including one time that we were supposed to meet for an outing, and I texted her to let her know that there was bad traffic. I ended up showing up much earlier than I expected, yet she kept me waiting downstairs on the steet for 20 minutes, even though I sent her repeated text messages letting her know that I had shown up in a timely fashion.
I’m not sure where she is drawing against this well of hatred against me, however, I am most certain that this is personal bias against me due to my participation in adult films. I am not naive enough to think that word did not get out quickly to the CFS office the way it did at the real estate office I worked at in Brooklyn, as well as my gym. I can say though, that my treatment by persons at the office was completely reprehensible, and I can almost guarantee that they have treated drug addicted parents who actually DO have a criminal record and who put their kids in physical danger better than they treated myself, who not only has not EVER put my children in any kind of physical danger, but has no record of abuse, neglect, or mal-treatment of my children. On the contrary, I took my children to culturally enriching activities, read to them every day, and enrolled them in music, dance, and athletic activities.
In addition, Dr. William Kaplan as well as Sherill Sigalow made deliberate false statements in their reports. For example, Sigalow claims that the reason that she was no longer working with us was due to my “lateness” (records will show that actually, I usually showed up at the office before Sigalow, who is a chain smoker and often has to take breaks to do her dirty business outside. I actually fired Sigalow personally when Alex did not make some support payments as agreed and I was unable to contact either herself or Alex for over 7 days. Kaplan deliberately omitted statements from friends which were favorable to me, which I realized because these friends called me afterwards to tell me what they had said to him in their statements. Unfortunately for me, the only way to dispute these false statements is to go through an expensive trial… and even then it’s unclear what the impact of so many lies on the part of so many will be.
Note: I’m still looking for files on CDs and External Hard-drives, so most likely these will be published within a few weeks.
Dropbox files related: https://www.dropbox.com/sh/0t0cs3rzc7xsj8v/AAAYZPPdBJKyr4SeIs3VS-EXa?dl=0